Pretty much every woman I’ve ever talked to about dieting and weight loss has told me that she’s tried “every diet out there”, and none of them have worked.
This is typically followed up with a sigh and an excuse: “Oh, I just couldn’t do it. I don’t have that kind of willpower.”
Yes, women are still blaming themselves for not having what it takes to be successful on a diet when this couldn’t be further from the truth!
We don’t fail because we lack discipline or willpower–we fail because the odds are stacked against us from go, and here’s why:
1. Diets are tricky–because they do work. Anytime we restrict calories and increase the amount we exercise, we’re going to lose weight.
But we inevitably gain all the weight back. 95% of people who lose weight gain it back within 5 years.
Why? Because our body likes to be regulated. It thrives on predictability. It doesn’t like being jerked around, which is exactly what a diet does.
2. Diets cause our bodies to rebel. Our bodies can’t tell the difference between “I need to lose 10 pounds to fit into my favorite dress” and “I’m literally starving.”
This kicks cravings for sugary, fatty, carb-heavy, calorie-dense foods into high gear, so it becomes harder and harder to resist that piece of cake.
Eventually, the rational, decision-making part of the brain succumbs to the instinct part and we binge.
It’s our mammalian brain saying, “Hey, you’re starving! You better eat this now ‘cause you don’t know when you’ll get another chance”!
We eat, and then comes the flood of blaming and shaming. The rational brain is like “Damn it! Why did you do that again! You totally ruined your diet”!
And thus the cycle repeats.
3. Diet culture feeds of the post-binge insecurities. We are ripe for manipulation at this time of weakness, and it’s nothing for the diet industry to convince us that another diet is the solution.
Diet culture convinces us that the problem is not the diet, but a lack of willpower. We believe it, too, because, well, diets work!
So we go back to Weight Watchers and Jenny Craig because our brains like routine. They like what they know and mistrust what they don’t.
We can’t fault ourselves for something that we’re hard-wired to do, which is why diets are the real culprit in this scenario.
They convince us that the way our bodies look is directly correlated to how we experience our lives, so if we want to be happy we have to be thin. If we don’t want to feel bad, we better get to looking good!
We believe that lie that if we want it badly enough, sacrifice enough for it, and really don’t let our excuses win, we’ll be able to overcome our physiology.
But that’s just not going to happen!
If we want to get results on a diet, we have to detox our minds first.
We need to take a step back and realize who benefits from and how much is riding on our failure.
We need to check ourselves and ask: “How dependent is my happiness on the way I look physically”? and be prepared for an answer we may not like.
I’m not saying that we shouldn’t aim high, be proactive in improving our health, or even have ambitious physique goals!
What I’m saying is that we need to take some personal responsibility for our efforts while recognizing that their are PHYSIOLOGICAL reasons why we can’t keep doing the same diet over and over and over and expect a different result!
The sooner we say “I’ve had enough”, and learn to work with our bodies in the pursuit of our goals instead of against it, the more likely we’ll be to bring about real, lasting results that don’t rely on blame and shame to achieve!
So if you’ve had enough, and want more results and less headaches, I’d love to invite you to join my upcoming FREE, 5-day challenge, Demystify Your Diet!!!
What the diet industry doesn’t want you to know;
What the diet industry doesn’t want you to do; and
How knowing these things will lead to better success and lasting results for YOU! (’cause F the diet industry; they’ll be just fine!)