Some people have a goal to get in shape…

Some have a goal to eat healthier…

Some may want to improve their work life balance…

And then there’s me, lol, and my new life goal is be a little bit more of a b**ch.


Lest you think I’ve gone off the deep end, lemme clarify!

I’m not talking about the kind of b**ch who has no regard for others’ feelings or manipulates people for the fun of it…

Or the kind of  b**ch who is so broken on that she wears her toughness like a coat of armor, either.

I’m talking about the type of b**ch who is the nicest, kindest, most passionate and generous woman you could ever meet…but who doesn’t have time to care what other people think of her.


This type of b**ch actively reclaims the title for herself because most women who are characterized as such by society are really just women with backbone, conviction, and self-respect.

IMO, a b**ch is the kind of woman who loves herself unapologetically; is confident; and doesn’t wait on anyone to tell her it’s OK to do something she wants to do:

She just does it.

The world is a better place because of b**ches because a b**ch isn’t afraid of pursuing her passion and showering the world with her gifts.


The kind of  b**ch I want to be is the kind of b**ch most men are, and no one questions it. Men are encouraged to show up, speak up, have an opinion, follow their dreams, and not let anyone tell them otherwise.

Women, on the other hand, are not extended the same courtesy, and women who dare to act, think, or look like men are called b**ch as if it’s an undesirable label.

But b**ch is not a label I want to shy away from because if I am operating from my integrity, I know that to be called this name is just reinforcement of that fact.

It’s a reminder that I’m doing it right, and I’m striking a cord.


As far as I’m concerned, it’s much worse to be “mean,” “dishonest,” or “untrustworthy” than it is to be called a b**ch. Those are real character flaws, whereas b**chiness is in the eye of the beholder: It’s subjective.

So you think I’m a b**ch?! Well I think I’m great because:

  1. I take care of my own needs: I prioritize self-care because I know that it’s important if I want to show up authentically so I can do what lights me up inside and makes me feel most fulfilled.
  2. I’m not afraid to take up space: I don’t shrink myself down to make people more comfortable; I take my time; and I let people wait. Perfect example: the other morning at the gym, I was using the cable machine, and there were two dudes waiting. Instead of apologizing and promising to finish up fast, I acknowledged them, said I had two more sets left, and completed my sets without rushing. No apologies!
  3. I don’t shy away from telling it like it is and I am confident that I can deal with the fallout, whatever that may look like: I believe in honesty and acting from my integrity. This is often hard when dealing with others and their feelings, but I’ve learned that being vulnerable and willing to ask others to hold space for you to be so is always the right move.
  4. I don’t care what you think of me because I love myself: I am proud of who I am and how far I’ve come. I spent a lot of years not respecting myself and not loving myself because I was afraid that I wouldn’t be worthy of love if people could see the real me. I didn’t think I was smart/beautiful/interesting/thoughtful enough. I’ve since realized that the most important relationship we all have is the one with ourselves, and the sooner we realize this and practice it, the more love will show up in our lives.
  5. I am unapologetically myself and not afraid to stand out: I’m not going to apologize for who I am, on the inside or the outside. I’m not ashamed of my body, and I’m not going to “tone it down” because it’s not “agreeable” to someone else. I have a naturally muscular physique which I’ve recently come to fully appreciate, and so my training goals as of late are centered around enhancing and defining what’s there naturally.

A woman with a muscular body isn’t “scary.” I don’t train the way that I do for anyone other that myself, and because I think I’m a damn work of art!

If that resonates with you, I cannot recommend my new exercise program, #DefinedbyDesign, enough! This program will make you fall madly in love with your body all over again ’cause it’s a program built around aesthetics.

#DefinedbyDesign is all about looking like you fit, and enjoying the hell out of your own physique and the work and commitment it takes to achieve it.

I’m a b**ch because I get to define how I train and what my body looks!!!

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Why I’m a #B**chByChoice!!!

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